Turn away from what you want or pursue it? Old vs. new school spiritual approaches to desire

The nondual traditions have usually held that the seeker must turn away from desires for fulfillment in the world -- through relationships, pleasure, etc. The seeker should use knowledge and the cut the attachment to these. My approach is a bit different. The seeker must indeed turn away from seeking happiness in these pleasures, but this is only going to happen through a process of honest admission and pursuit of desire. The old knowledge+willpower way doesn't work that well.